well, as some of you may know my grandpa had a stroke wednesday and isnt doing very well. today he took a turn for the worst and now they are talking about putting him on dialisys and a ventilator. We all know damn well that he has said numerous times that if it ever came to that, he wouldnt want to be on any machine keeping him alive. However, my quot;step-grandmotherquot; doesnt see it that way and is insisting on doing it because she doesnt want to lose him, and the way his will is written she is in charge of his health if he's incapacitated. Well, obviously no one wants to lose him but we dont want to see him suffer either and we know what he would want. I know if he could speak for himself he would say just let me go. The good thing is, theres still a chance he could come out of it but it doesnt look very good.
Then, just to add insult to injury, on the way home me and my dad hit a deer in his explorer on the turnpike (thank god we werent driving my truck). Going 70mph a deer ran out and just stopped in the center lane. my dad moved over to the left a little bit but it clipped the passenger side (where I was sitting) with its head. This thing was a monster buck too, it had to have stood like 8 feet tall and had huge antlers. All it did to our car was rip off the side mirror and the antenna. It didnt do any damage to the body at all. We got off at the next exit like a mile down the road and told the turnpike people about it. Then a couple minutes later some lady pulled up in a mini cooper and she had ran over the deer that we hit and it fucked up the underside of the car and she had a flat tire. So... we had to wait over a fucking hour for a cop to get there only for him to say it wasnt worth writing a police report over, which is fine... but still, waiting an hour for a cop to show up when any other time there would be 10 of them waiting to pull you over for speeding...
oh well, at least that piece of shit deer died a painful brutal death.
.I wish the best for your Grandfather, I understand your tough times.
.thanks to everyone who has been supportive. We just found out today that they've pretty much realized that he's not going to come out of it, and now his lungs are filling up with fluid. My dad and uncle talked to my step grandma about what he would want and they all decided that its time to let him go. So, they're gonna move him into a room where we can be with him all the time and take out the feeding tube and everything so he can be more comfortable. He doesnt have much time left so we're gonna go up there and be with him until the end. At least we can say that we're all going to be with him and that we did the best we could while doing what he would want us to do if he could say so himself.
.im really sorry man, my wishes go out to your and your family
.hmmm poor deer. everyone should respect the man's wishes.
As odd as it may seem I have a clear and concise instructions to my DNR and non life-sustaining procedures. I have several notorized copies, my attorney has one, my doctor has one and my family has copies. I really do not believe I am meant to be kept alive by any machines. I also do not believe I want to be cut open for even emergency lifesavings means. I believe god meant it that way. That's why I live everyday as it was my last.
.well, we all believe that we're doing what he would want us to do. There's basically no hope of him comming out of the stroke damage. His kidneys are starting to fail and his lungs arent doing too well. He got set up in that new room today thats basically just a hospice room with furnature and stuff and visitors can come in 24/7. The only thing that kinda worries me is they quit tube feeding him. Initially, I thought you know quot;well that sounds kinda cruel letting him starve to deathquot;, but the nurse assured me that he does not feel anything at all, especially hunger pains because of all the morphine he's on. He is still getting IV fluids and oxygen, but thats it. Hes not hooked up to anything monitoring heart beat, breathing, pulse, etc. Whats going to happen is, he'll get weakened down from not eating and eventually the kidneys will fail or he'll just get so weak that he dies. I know its a sad situation, but its really the best we can do for him. The nurses/doctors have orders to not resussitate/shock the heart/do dialysis and anything else that can prolong the life. We are thinking about 3 more days is what he's got left and we're making out a schedule so someone can be there with him 24 hours a day. I of course volunteered the midnight shift because Im an insomniac anyway, and I could get some time with him alone. I have trouble grieving if theres other people in the room, so its better for me to just be alone with him when I tell him goodbye and I'll see him on the other side someday.
.Wink, I'm sorry about the situation man, its gotta be tough going through something like that.
You and your family are in my prayers.
.Best of luck man, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Stay strong
.sorry to hear that man. i hope you and your family find comfort knowing he wont suffer any more.
.well, my uncle called and told us that he passed away at 12:40 A.M. My mom and dad went to see him tonight and everyone left at about 11pm, no family was there when he died. I couldve went with my mom and dad, but I just couldnt stand seeing him like that anymore. I dont think he wanted people seeing him that way either. My other grandpa, whom I was VERY close to, died on almost the same exact date 7 years ago (nov. 7th of 02). At least we can take comfort in the fact that he's not in any more pain and we allowed him to leave this world with as much dignity as possible. Thanks to everyone for their support, dont worry about me... I'll be fine.
.may he RIP
.Sorry for your loss Wink. Just take pleasure knowing he's in a better place and no more suffering. We'll keep you and your family in our prayers.
.I'm terribly sorry for your loss man, atleast he's no longer suffering. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
.My condolences to you and your family Wink, you will be in my prayers..... its esspecially tough for me to see someone loose a family member to a stroke, because when I was 5, my mom had a stroke, and she pulled thru and is back 100%....but she was only 35 at the time......much higher recovery rate then.....Im praying for you man!!!!!
.hey man im here for ya my mom just spent 3 months in the hospital and then 2 months at home..she just passed away september 4th and the funeral was today and she was only 49 years old hang in there buddy |
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